Credit: White Parrot Wedding Photographers
Newly wed Daniel Watson shares 14 brilliant tips to consider whilst planning your wedding to experiencing the big day. I recently stumbled across this amazing piece of advice on a facebook group and knew the moment I read this I had to share with you all! A massive thank you and shout to Daniel for giving us permission to share this valuable advice!
Here are 14 tips to consider whilst planning your wedding. Enjoy!
1. Have A Drink Together!
From the start of your engagement, go for a coffee or a drink with your fiancé and talk about the kind of wedding day you want. Not necessarily details, just what do you imagine. Some of us have had a vision for decades, some of our partners just want to know there will be cold drinks, good food and the rest is irrelevant. Be okay with this. They’re not marrying you for your event planning skills or passion. They love you. Berating them for not being as enthusiastic as you is a recipe for disaster.
2. Choose A Celebrant
Choose a celebrant who maybe is recommended by someone you know has similar taste/style/humour/emotion to you both. The celebrant makes the wedding in my opinion and ours was incredible. The AV at our venue broke minutes before we were to walk down the aisle and he completely managed it flawlessly. You get what you pay for. If you’re worried about details and having the stress off your shoulders, choose a recommended celebrant.
3. If Budget Allows...
....get a good wedding videographer!
Be okay and comfortable that some people including close family and friends are really shit at RSVPs and replying to messages. You could skywrite your run sheet or have it tattooed to the inside of their eyelids and they still won’t read it and still ask you for the venue date and time on the day. The quicker you accept this will happen at the time you are feeling your most nervous and anxious, the happier you will be. And you can rip them a new one after the wedding haha
5. Have A Run Sheet!
Just dummy one up on Word or Google sheets - and allow generous timings for everything. If you’re running ahead, perfect. If you’re running late, there’s less impact. Send the FINAL run sheet 1-2 weeks to all people who have a role to play in your wedding besides guests obviously. Good preparation will truly minimise overwhelm and stress - the whole day, my partner and I knew roughly that we were on time and it was all good. On the same note...
6. Be Prepared
Prepare mentally that little things will go wrong and there is nothing you can do about it and it’s part of the joy of the day. If the shit really hits the fan and the cake isn’t delivered or the flowers are different or things are not as contractually agreed by the vendors, there’s time to write stern emails after the wedding. For now, laugh it off and go dance with your friends.
7. Take It All In And...
Walk down the aisle... SLOWLY.
8. It's Okay...
Not everyone will give you a gift or a card. Makes no sense to me as even in my poorest moments I’ve at least given a card but this is not something everyone does. Conversely, people you think are doing it tough can be overwhelmingly generous.
9. Communicate With Your VIPs
Your bridal party (on both sides) should be there to support and guide you but they also have lives outside your wedding (they shouldn’t but apparently they do 😝). The earlier you sit down with them (or call them) and have a friendly open communication about your expectations of them - the much happier you’ll be. If they say they can or can’t do certain things because of money or kids or whatever, then you know and can work around it. People are usually always doing their best but disappointment only happens when expectations are missed.
10. Remember To Breathe
The hugs and congratulations immediately after the service was the most overwhelming 20 minutes. It was insane. Just breathe and check your partners eyes and smile to know you’re both still there. It can be chaotic in that moment.
11. Create A Photo List
If you’re doing set family portraits, have a printed list and a person to wrangle the family. We did ours immediately after the ceremony so nobody could escape and it took about 25 minutes to do 20 photo combos of family members. Without the list it would’ve taken an hour.
12. Be Sure To Stay Full and Hydrated
Eat before your wedding and before your reception if possible. Drunk speeches aren’t fun for anyone.
13. Ask For Advice
Ask for advice from a small select group of people you trust (in real life) and groups on facebook like DIY/Budget Weddings Australia. I searched lots of things in here and found cool tips. Also, it’s in my nature to dismiss advice I didn’t ask for, but for the wedding I learned to just listen and take it in. Some of the advice I would’ve thrown in the bin I actually used after thinking about it. While I could rattle on forever, the last thing I’ll share that helped us:
14. Check In With Each Other
In the days leading up to the wedding when it’s all becoming real and exciting and you want to throw up with nerves and party at the same time... stop and take your partner for a coffee again and check in how THEY are feeling. Ask them what you can do to make it better for them and likewise communicate what you need from them. My only request to Wesley was that no matter how much we were lured by friends to go out after, we would go back to our hotel together. Everyone will have something different here (please don’t get blind drunk, please let’s check in on each other, please let’s sneak off for 15 mins for a pash and to take it all in) - just talk to them so you’re completely on the same page.
Newly Weds: Daniel Watson and Wesley Woodborne
We hope these tips have helped you in your wedding planning journey. Let us know in the comments below what you think and be sure to head over to 11 Pro Tips To Be A Stress Free Bride for more valuable wedding planning advice.